lisab86 (lisab86) wrote in depressionloves,


I just found this community and I think my husband has (?)clinical depression. He is 44 years old and has not been to a doctor for this. We separated three weeks ago and I believe his mental state has a lot to do with his decision to leave us.

In the six years I have known him (married five years) he has had repeated episodes of just being "blue" as he calls it, not interested in life in general. Things that he once looked forward to are now just frustrations to him and I believe I have become a frustration as well.

He often talks about feeling old and missing out on things. Kind of like a mid-life crisis? I've talked to him about getting treatment or talking to someone and his response was always " I don't want to go through life drugged up" and "I can talk to you, why do I need to talk to a doctor?" Uh, maybe because I am NOT A DOCTOR?

I am at a loss as to how to deal with this. I love him and want to help him, but I realize he needs to be the one to help himself.

Glad I found you all.
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Thank you so much for your help. I do tell him (whenever I get to actually talk to him) that I love him and I am here for him whenever he needs someone to lean on, but he does'nt seem to want to hear that now that we are separated.

I will go ahead and get that book you recommended and I have a feeling he will read it, maybe on his own though. I'd like to read it too, before I give it to him.

I have heard so many people say the medication they take has helped them tremendously. I hope he at least trys.